Anger management tips

The fact that uncontrollable emotions especially anger leads to so many unpleasant things and umimaginable sufferings, here are some tips on how to control your anger.

These are the rules of practicing “Ugaling Langit, Ugaling kaaya-aya“.

  • Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag hindi ka sumagot o pumatol titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag-away sa yo.
  • Ang naunang magalit ay may karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na ng galit nya, tumahimik ka na lang muna.
  • Ang taong galit, “bingi“. If someone is angry, wala raw pinakikinggan. Hindi ka niya iintindihin, so, “do not try to explain and fight back” kasi di ka niya iintindihin dahil wala siyang naririnig kundi ang sarili nya.
  • Ang taong galit, “ABNOY“. Ayon sa isang pastor, Biblical daw ito… because the Lord said when He was crucified, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do!” So hindi ka dapat magalit para wag kang matawag na abnoy.
  • You should also know and realize that the persons who make your day bad are jewels because you need them for you to mature.
  • Hangga’t andyan daw sila at kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin, immature ka pa. God will not take away those people; it’s for you to take way your bad feelings towards them.
  • You’ll know na mature ka na pag dumating yung time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga taong ito because you have learned to accept them and to have patience with them.

Finally, the best part of this is to tell yourself, na because of this person, “I will grow mature and, that DAHIL SA CONTRIBUTION NYA SA MATURITY MO, KUKUNIN DIN SYA NI LORD“.

10 Responses to “Anger management tips”


  1. 1 rhodora June 29, 2007 at 6:23 pm

    LOL on “kukunin din siya ni Lord”!

    I practice the first tip with hubby. When hs is fuming, I just keep silent until he subsides. When he is quiet na, and apparently cooled down, my turn naman.. hehehe.

  2. 2 annamanila June 30, 2007 at 3:53 am

    I read this before. When it was first going around, it was in English — or did you translate it Rolly? But I need this reminder every now and then. Hirap lang talagang i-practice. We tend to meet anger (especially when we go ‘whoa, what have i done this time?!) with bigger anger. As though the one who yells louder is more righteous. As though the one who mouths the more “choice oneliners” is smarter.

    Tama si Rhoda. Let the angry person vent his steam first. Then deliberately, not angrily — respond to him.

  3. 3 brodiz June 30, 2007 at 7:51 am

    nice entry… i can relate very much.

    But, I’m proposing if you could make a reflection, an entry on the NEED to be angry at times.

    When people don’t get angry, is that bad? an abnormality? a pathological disease or disorder? or dangerous? or something incomprehensible?

  4. 4 SexyMom July 1, 2007 at 10:01 am

    “Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag hindi ka sumagot o pumatol titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag-away sa yo.”

    i have perfected this art–and it has worked for me over the past many many years. i seldom get angry, and if i do, i give it some time, breath in, breath out, breath in breath out…then i take action.

  5. 5 badoodles July 2, 2007 at 4:09 pm

    tama ka diyan rolly. pag nagpa-apekto, ibig sabihin kayang kaya nilang kontrolin ang emotional state. kaya, wag na lang patulan… hmm.. dumami tuloy iisipin kong nuggets of wisdom pag may nang-trip sa akin .🙂

  6. 6 Major Tom July 4, 2007 at 6:02 am

    Ang galeng nito Rolly–kahit katawataw pero totoo ang mga ito and I do see those advises as practicable.

    Ang masasabi ko lang, sana kunin na sila ni Lord…Just joking…:)

  7. 7 Patrice July 4, 2007 at 11:02 pm

    hahaha, I like this post. Parang batuhin ka man ng bato, batuhin mo sila ng tinapay? But then again, siguro immature nga ako kasi I make patol sometimes. Dog eat dog world ika nga nila lalo na dito sa US, so kapag tatahimik ka lang, lalo ka nila aabusuhin. Ang kagandahan naman, once nailabas mo na ang galit mo, okay na sa kanila. Siguro nga, dapat ipanalangin mo na lang ang kaluluwa nila…na sana KUNIN NA SILA NI LORD! Hehe.

  8. 8 Donya Chariray July 6, 2007 at 4:57 pm

    True and Correct. Sobrang Nakarelate ako dito. No wonder very few people can really find peace and happiness. Mismanagement of Anger is the root cause of Chaos in this World.

    Sana nga Kunin na Sila ni Lord, ineng mga Chaotic pipol.

  9. 9 auee July 12, 2007 at 11:30 pm

    i always use this “kunin na sana sya ni Lord” hehehe

  10. 10 honey June 29, 2010 at 8:14 am

    I understand this article. This is a great series and is making me think a LOT. I have been the one to deny anger, all my life. And now I am just learning to recognize it, accept it.🙂


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